So you just moved to college, yet your significant other is somewhere else? You want to talk to her, but there is this party next door, oh yeah, and you also need to study. Not sure how to manage all of it? For this reason I have prepared some tips for you on how to balance your college LDR and your college life and still make the most of both!
If it helps… you are definitely not the only one with this struggle – 1 in 3 college relationships are long distance (32.5% to be exact). To add more 75% of all engaged couples have at some point been in an LDR. Numbers don’t lie – it’s doable.
Get your priorities straight/balance
College is about you growing and getting new experiences. I know that you want to talk to your crush all the time (been there myself), but let me tell you about a girl I met. She was living with her boyfriend and they would spent a lot of time together. She missed a chance to go on an exchange semester, just so she could stay with him. You most probably guessed it right, this was not the only thing she missed out on because of him. Long story short, she got full of regrets and that relationship ended.
Find distractions. No need to get fixated on your college LDR
At times you will feel lonely or even homesick. It might happen, that your significant other is busy that day and cannot comfort you. For these moments you need friends. Sports, study groups, pin pong buddies, overnight conversations, pizza parties everything works. Your social circle is the most important thing you take from college. I believe it might be more important than knowledge. The process of finding friends alone will greatly affect your mood. Moreover, get some new hobbies. It is way better to spend your alone time doing something productive, rather than stuck on Youtube watching LDR videos.
Frequent visits (at her school)
Try to visit each other as often as possible. Make use of study breaks, maybe some longer periods where you don’t have lectures. Get acquainted with cheap bus/airlines, catch special offers. Of course don’t make traveling a financial burden. Especially, for one of the sides. A good idea is to visit each other at school. You want your crush’s friends to get to know you and to connect with them. This way the next time you are Video-chatting you might ask questions like “how’s Mike?”. Also, her friends will be more understanding if she decides to skip a party just so she could chat with you.
Make common plans
This is important for 2 reasons. First, you have something to look forward to. It might be a small thing like the 2 of you going to Florida for the summer. Or something bigger, like culminating your college LDR by moving in together after graduation. Secondly, assuming you intend on having a common future at some point, you need to learn to work as a team. The best thing to do that is by making decisions together.
Be a normal boyfriend/girlfriend
Long distance relationships are not that different from normal relationships. You need to make sure that your significant other is feeling fine. Be there for her/him when she/he needs you. But also understand that she/he may not always be able to help you right now.